They were like this and this and this.
The budget sheets and estimate sheets I used for annual planning at work were child’s play compared to the bday.xls file I had created over the years. It had master-lists for guests, party-item suppliers, invitation formats, party themes, ideas for return gifts, menu planning, ideas for games, entertainments, pick-and-drop logistics, cleaning-up, start-be-end-by dates for tasks etc. etc.
And when they went off to boarding school this became another way to miss them; another vacuum to fill.
The first time one of them was not here for her birthday, I felt like calling her friends over and celebrating just the same way. But it would have not made sense. Not doing anything also did not feel correct. It was such a special day for us, I still wanted to celebrate. Celebrating just by ourselves also didn’t s…